I (32F) caught my son (15M) cuddling with his friend (15M) while they were sleeping in their room. I was buying a house, he needed a place to live, moved into my spare room. My ex and I were married for 12 years, and have been divorced for 5 years, we have three kids together who are now teenagers. Before we got married we had a conversation about what we wanted from each other and what some of our main goals were. Your husband is an asshole for tolerating her treatment of you. 5K votes, 2. He’s right I’m flat chested but I have a nice body overall). AITA for being upset my husband “ruined” Mother’s Day? A couple weeks ago I told my husband I wanted a bird feeder with a camera for Mother’s Day. Be blunt with her. My husband (30M) and I (28F) have been married for just under 3 months and have been having a huge argument about my… We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. My (37)m husband and I (35)f have been married for 9 years with two children (5)f and (8)m. If it's something that you both enjoy, then you pay the 2/3 and he pays 1/3. AITA for causing a scene when my husband's family showed up for dinner again. For context, we CAN afford one. While I initially agreed with my husband's suggestion ADMIN MOD. I clean up around the house, cook his meals from scratch, do laundry (wash, fold My husband hasn't stopped grilling me about how I disrespected and undermined him and managed to make our daughter hate him after making him look like the bad guy, I again said he shouldn't have touched the bike, end of the story/// He's called me theif and juvenile for taking money from his savings and being sneaky about it. It was Friday morning, and that’s when the trash was taken away. I expressed concern as he was in trouble with the law several times before we met; three misdemeanors about two decades ago. …. Ok, posting on mobile sorry it’s long I want to cover all my bases with details, I’m 4. 5 months pregnant and over emotional and I need to know if this is pregnancy rage & I’m genuinely just being an ass. It was a lot of work to care for an aging dog I was called cold and callous for wanting to put my foot down. I got upset and said, I’m the ADMIN MOD. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I could be the asshole by refusing to giving my dead husband's affair partner his personal belongings for their unborn child. I’d take my husband to work, take our daughter to school, go home, clean up, get ready for my job, go to work, on lunch take the car to my husband who got off, he takes me back to work, then he gets our daughter from school and then when I got off he would get me. My daughter was screaming and the dog had whale eyes, trying to kick out of my husband's arms to get to the baby while throat Daughter feels weird about mom's new husband being in her biz, then MOM has to be the one to check the email for communications! It sounds like you're happy to throw all the parenting responsibilities to the new man of the house and you don't have to parent your own bio-kid. A couple in their late twenties with four small children. He was my "getting my feet wet" after divorce bf. His job offer is conditional of a background check. I answered and he asked why I didn't answer my sister's calls. Throwawaystroub. She decided she wanted to have her birthday party at a local river (we live in the Midwest). My dogs are like my children and he knows this and I thought that was how he thought of them. AITA for the resentment I feel towards my husband for calling me lazy? I’m (29F) leaving for the Air Force in August & quit my job recently to prepare. My husband and I just got a puppy a few days ago and thought it would be fun to bring We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. NTA. He said he was going to a work trip but we later found out that all of that was just another one of his lies and he was actually on a cheating trip. My daughter was screaming and the dog had whale eyes, trying to kick out of my husband's arms to get to the baby while throat We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. AITA for checking my husband's dashcam footage on his car without his consent. You're gonna have to have enough spine to put your foot down. My (25 f) husband (25m) wants me to go down on him more and allow him to go deeper because it feels better. We’ve been together for 4 years, married for 2. It was very hard on him and his father. She now has two little girls from the new marriage and one with my brother and still wants to be included in family Christmas party’s and family vacations. AITA For refusing to let my husband move his father into our home. Not the A-hole. God parents doesn't mean anything in 2023. AITA for not giving my Husband’s sister MY puppy. If you acknowledge a problem, it exists. “He does the bare minimum when I force him and that’s it. They were also over last week and the week before. New Update marked with *****. "I'm not chill. I finally went to the kitchen to ask my husband if he’d seen my puzzle collection. And Im of the belief that pets are our children. This evening, I made a scene in front of my husband's family while they ate dinner at our house. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: (1) I’m not letting my husband buy a house for his ex (2) she’s living in a cramp apartment and their kids are staying with us because they refuse to live there with her. She's worried she'll have to choose between her husband and her family. Talk to them to understand what he told them. She is an unpleasant and pushy woman and none of her own daughters have allowed her near them when they gave birth. We divorced because Jim was a bad husband and We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. I grew up with a single mother who worked night shift at a motel. My husbands nephew moved into his grandparents home at 16. AITA for Leaving My Husband Alone With The Kids For 2 days. The wife is a SAHM and the husband is a trucker. Obviously, this led to my parent’s divorce. He brought up the surgery again and I snapped at him. Hate to tell you, but your husband is married to his mother. Me: “no u u”. Help keep the sub engaging! Your former SILs husband sounds like a shitty person. My (39F) ex-husband (38M) has been dating this women for 3 years. Credit: Reddit. ”. AITA For telling my husband I'm not ready for his family to meet our new son. She had a kid with him who was 9 years old when she and I started dating. I decided not to wake them up and I discussed it with my husband (34M) and the possibility that our son might be gay came up. Due to that and the subsequent settlement, my daughter was able to have a trust fund of sorts that provided for college, grad school if she wanted, and even some left over for whatever The mom is an asshole for not reserving the right number of chairs for her guests (who were there to celebrate for HER!}. My mother-in-law wants to be in the room when I give birth. Original - July 3, 2023. My family is just about ten people and thats it. I asked him not to go again, and he just gave me this cold, expressionless stare. He said yes then proceeded to tell me he recieved the news of a family members death from her. And your husband in the eyes of God and the law is your first family and first priority. the Bible says that that’s what the man is supposed to do, so he’s even more responsible for it. DO NOT give him any money. I hope he divorces your ass. There's more going on. As for optional things (vacations, take-out/ eating out, entertainment), I suggest you use this general guideline: If it's something only he wants, then he pays for it. Husband: “just take my seat, I’ll sit in coach”. When my (42F) daughter (17F) was 7, we lost her father to an avoidable accident. Me (f29) and my STBH (m33) are getting married soon. I immediately knew that he had thrown them into the trash. I went to introduce myself and bring them a pie right after they moved in. Edit. Lately I’ve been feeling upset because I’m not given the chance to be AITA - Ex wife still wants to bring her new husband and family to our family events My brother got divorced two years ago and his ex wife has since got remarried. My daughter and I recently went on a short trip out of state while my husband stayed as he had work and was supposed to look after our dog. I'm sick of you hanging off my husband and acting like I'm not here. Edited to add update, when my MIL showed up she was super angry outside. He looked at me and with a smug little smirk and told me he had to put them all “where they belong. And I do hope they can figure out how to fix this. " Her husband was with her almost every waking minute. AITA for dropping my friends for revealing my husband's infidelity? I've known for years that my (44F) husband (49M) cheats on me. So my phone was charging on the nightstand. ) So if she is going into labor this will likely be a 1-2+ week and extremely traumatic ordeal even if the baby does survive. My (31F) ex-husband (31M) and I split up about a year ago when he left me for "Amy" (32F). I am (29F) and husband (29). He had lung cancer and was terminal. I (38F) have a 9 year old son Max and 6 year old daughter Olivia with my ex-husband Dan (35M). Update 2 - July 18, 2023 (1 Week After Update 1) Latest Update - July 20, 2023 (2 Days After Update 2) Mood Spoilers: Positive; OOP is doing better now. The day before the appointment, I spoke We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. My husband was calling when I walked into the room where my phone on vibrate and charging. Inheritance isn't marital property. Wild_You_3661. My husband is tired of it, and from what I can tell,so is your husband. Living-Artichoke-315. I made it my goal to give my kids a better life. This culminated in him calling all my “presents” an embarrassment and given my fancy job I could afford to splash some cash. We've been together for about 7 years, started out as best friends but turned to BF/GF relationship. And as a married man you do the same. Fight for your kids, they are getting brainwashed by your ex-husband. AITA for correcting my ex's new wife? Not the A-hole. AITA for not inviting my moms new husband to my college graduation. I have 2 dogs that I have had since before I married him. 2) he's an adult, he spent his own $ on it, says "life long dream" is "ruined" by "rules. Also, if you don't fight for them now, you'll lose them forever. Background: My husband (let’s call him Will) is in the Navy, and he works on nuclear reactors on submarines. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole. You can read my previous BORU here. I am now 8 months pregnant, almost 9 with a girl. (In the basement even) I dated a couple of other guys along the way, met my now husband. We broke up and stayed friends. Yes, he went to the funeral, which I was very uncomfortable with. I (29F) and my husband (30M) have been together for 8 years. On the last day of our trip we got a call from my husband We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. I enjoy making him feel good but overall, the physical feeling of choking and gagging is not my favorite. Not a ADMIN MOD. The police might advise the dad and son that if they have some place they can go, probably best to give OOP some space, at least for the night. I (25 f) and my husband (27 m) went to his sister’s 13th birthday party this weekend. Your husband has been patient enough but your grown up adult sister is still acting five years old and entitled over her own stupid mistake. For context, she is 24 years old. AITA for going off on my soon-to be Husband for returning my wedding dress? Not the A-hole. My husband’s dog died on Easter this year after 14 loyal years. My husband and I got there together. Ok-Win3088. He did this at around 7:40am in the morning and I didn’t notice because I had just worked a double/night shift and was getting ready for bed. I say husband’s dog bc he pre-dated me and although I was the one who took care of him 70% of the time due to my husband’s work travel, the dog was never fond of me. Original Post: September 1, 2023. Yup as a married woman myself you “leave and cleave” meaning you leave your family of origins and cleave to the family you create with your spouse. The vet thought they were purebred labradors however my husband says that the source told him their mother was half labrador half golden retriever, which makes both puppies 3/4 labradors. AITA for now wanting to go down on my husband anymore. Wedding planning has so far been going alright except for few things he and I argued about like the venue and flower girl. (Happy ending, the 1lb 4oz baby is now a chubby, happy 2 year old. This pregnancy was a lot more difficult for me than my first. They do not clean much, if at all and are sloppy in many ways. ADMIN MOD. Basically 2 years ago it came to light that my dad had been having an affair for several years. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Me: “nah we should save the money, it’s no big deal”. The name is embroidered onto a blanket that has We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. I budget $500 a month for groceries, we live in Been there! We had one car. I got a text message from my MIL for calling me an A for not helping my husband clean up the house and putting my BIL in a uncomfortable position by having my mom boss him around. Your brother is right though - family does come first. Now we've been arguing about my wedding dress, This might sound Dec 8, 2020 · Pay up. I had complications and had to take an early maternity leave We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Mood Spoiler: Happy ending, mostly. (I do have eyes. Last month my old neighbors moved out and some new ones moved in. AITA for telling my husband that his grown nephew and his GF cannot move in. As far as your husband, may want to start going back in time and start writing down any other time and situation where he has put other things over you and your family, you will be surprised at just how many you think of. She was cremated and my husband was given a little bit of her ashes in a small urn the size of a pill bottle. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. I (34F) live with my husband (37M) and daughter (7F). ADMIN. Aged 18 I married my high school sweetheart. I'm tired of you blatantly ignoring your own man to get attention from mine. He then went around greeting guests and I waited for him til the ceremony began. 9K comments. In the 1970s when my parents were first married, an uncle told my dad "insult your new wife's cooking a lot in the beginning, so she'll work hard to please you and earn your approval. If a problem exists, you need to address it. My husband (27) always complains that the house isn't up to his standards and that it's a mess or that I sometimes put on frozen meals instead of cooking a While I don’t think you should cut down on spending time with the kids, you should recognise that all the time you spend helping doing ‘husband duties’ for your friend, take away from the time you could be spending with your wife and it’s clearly impacting your marriage. The dead husband's younger brother who idolized him was heavily in their lives as a sort of father figure. I am going to divorce my husband. Husband (33M) and (33f) have been married for 10 years, together since college. The holidays were rough. My husband was sitting with his mom, dad, sisters and the other table had relatives and they were all men. To the OP I am sorry you have a husband that put friends over family. UGH, I hope not. My husband received a new job offer after 21 years at his current job. Asshole. Also need to check her credit history to see how many cards he's opens up in her name for his parents to use. AITA for telling my Husband our son was gay? Not the A-hole. But you need to be straight up with him and tell him he isn't going to have access to it. We were at a small house party with a few friends of mine from college and we were discussing books we’ve all read, when at one point one of my friends (let’s call him Jun 7, 2022 · The now-viral Reddit post, titled, "AITA for telling my dad and brother they should try begging my husband for forgiveness," has been upvoted 15,700 times, garnering 600 comments since it was Not the A-hole. Since starting out we have made financial security a priority and have been able to We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. He could at least have joined you at your table and should have. I went to get my makeup fixed then came back and saw that both family tables were full. My husband (30M) works full time & expects to do absolutely nothing & just relax when he gets home. Aita for divorcing my husband for leaving my dogs outside when I’m on work trips? I (34f) am married to my husband (36m) and have been for 3 years. Husband: “no u”. This woman’s parents paid for all of her three brothers’ college expenses notreadyaita. But he's been less attentive with our 3 kids AITA - Husband new job. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. My husband is still struggling and I've been doing my best to be kind, supportive, and understanding. He had plenty of time to realize that I'm not good enough for him and break up with me to find a woman who has what he’s looking for. Help keep the sub engaging! Turns out he borrowed from A TON of other friends, used his new wife's SSN and took out almost $100,000 in gambling debt. I have an ex who lives in my house with my husband and I. I am 48 (f) and was married to my ex, Jim (49) for 20 years. Now on to their history. I guess this post breaks the rules on amitheasshole. This absolutely because my sister had a separate account in the same bank as her husband. Thanks for the awards! I seriously dated a woman whose husband had died under tragic circumstances 7-8 years before she and I dated. Many people have also asked about their breed. In my husband's family, there is a tradition of naming a baby before it is born. This could make me the asshole because the baby will have very little of their father. Here’s how this would go in my marriage for comparison: Husband: “we’ll make it work financially so you can sit with me”. She doesn't realize that her inaction has already made that choice for her. Me: “dude sit with your buddies, I’ll be fine”. 2. We talked for hours through the night and came up with a plan. My husband's (40M) mom passed away late last year. Three weeks ago my husband died in a car accident halfway across the country. Actually. My dad is still dating the lady he had the affair with and after not talking to my dad for a few months we’ve rekindled our relationship. Open_Breadfruit_5391. We have 3 kids 22f, 20m, 18m, and have been divorced for 5 years. " OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: (1) I’m not letting my husband buy a house for his ex (2) she’s living in a cramp apartment and their kids are staying with us because they refuse to live there with her. My husband's family came over for dinner the second time this week. My husband and I divorced when our daughter was 3, we don't hate each other but we are not best friends either. UPDATE: AITA For Wanting To Divorce My Husband For Wanting A Son? I didn't expect to have an update so soon, but after reading everyone's comments I decided to take action immediately and went to my brother's house. If he doesn't like it let him leave because it doesn't sound like he's contributing anything. AITA for not allowing my late husband's affair partner come to his funeral? Not the A-hole. Both of us are now remarried but we maintain a good relationship for our kids and because we do like each other. Likewise, if it's something only you want, then you pay for it. I (27f) pay for the groceries for our family (husband 35 daughter 1yr). AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings. My job requires me to go on a lot of trips The new husband was a little standoffish but come the day of the party he was telling anyone who listened that I didn’t pay or make the present I had lackies at work do it for free. Trigger Warnings: child abuse/neglect; threatening behavior; infidelity; harassment. It is a lot more money and the benefits are great. My husband (33M) and I (32F) just welcomed our second child 2-months ago. When I walked inside, my husband was holding the dog in his arms, my MIL was holding my baby and they were putting them close together, saying "aww, you love the baby" or "aww you love the doggy, be easy with the doggy". We also have a 3-year old daughter. A lady at the bank told the husband about the 100k and she gave him access to it even though he wasnt on the account. YTA Genuinely, if I knew a man in my life who was so fragile, insecure, controlling, and selfish as to cost his family thousands of dollars and hours of hassle because he was scared he MIGHT get caught driving his WIFE’S feminine car, I would never be able to look at him without laughing again. I live in his house that he owned (still haven't done anything concerning inheritance) his brother lost his job and place and moved in with me a week ago. I won't say your former SILs husband is abusive to your nephew but that is a very common trait I've seen across mental and emotional abusers. After that we got invited to eat. For those wondering both puppies are female. r/AmItheAsshole. I could hear shouting but, couldn't understand what was said. We dated a couple of years. AITAH My husband said It's my fault. They are not a human being. AITA For Deciding Not To Let My Husband Into The Delivery Room? Not the A-hole. But they dont nurture you, care for you and help you raise kids for twenty years. AITA for not helping out with my ex's new baby. He is now 24 and is still leaving at the grandparents home with his GF that does not work and her 7 YO daughter. My late husband "Adam" (M36) passed away a month ago. I (24f) have 2 sets of twins first set are 5 years old boys and the second set are 3 year old girls. AITA for saying no to a new puppy? Not the A-hole. My husband made a comment that it’s a tradition to take our daughter out and get me candy or a teddy or flowers. For the past year, my ex and I have only interacted OP isn't blind; she's willingly closed her eyes so she doesn't have to acknowledge her husband is an AH. The issue with the new baby is that he explained to me that after he told his new wife the story behind the name of Elsa, she proposed that their daughter should be named Anna, so they could be sisters like in the movie. AITA for giving my late husband's brother and his kids 3 days to move out? Not the A-hole. It turns out he and Amy had been having an affair for months and when she got pregnant he decided that he wanted to be with her. Two of our biggest wants/goals were he wanted a stay at home wife when we Or if she needed spoons, like honestly it could still be a gift that’s the same price range… but giving your just now wife any kitchen utensil for Christmas just screams 1950’s house wife vibe(aka I expect you to be in the kitchen so here are some spoons for while you are in there) Still also very impersonal for someone that’s been with you for 3 years. Losing a husband is losing a whole man, a whole lifetime, somebodies child, somebodies father, a husband, the man of the house, a million memories, a life partner, a teammate, gone. Drag him to court and show everyone who has a more stable life, better fit to raise your children. AITA for not splitting my daughter's college fund. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: told husband can only keep new motorcycle if follows "rules". As far as why he “listens” now, it’s part of a pattern of appeasement. Who the hell keeps track of everything their step child eats, drinks, gets at restaurants and their prescriptions. We've been through alot, I've known his entire family which is a whole lot of people. But they would not force it. #6: AITA—Telling my parents to pay me back my college tuition if they want a relationship. I reminded him that we dated for 5 years before we got married. I asked why and wether she called him. A few days ago my ex-husband mistakenly transferred two payments of 8700 and 9275. AITA for telling my husband that he has to let my dad witness his colonoscopy? NSFW. At the same time my 4 children were at my parents and so I . ed pb cc mi xx ak ii zq ms hx